Friday, October 25, 2013

Living Again After Loss

Many of my readers have suffered great loss. From you, I hope to receive wise words of encouragement and hope. For all the rest, may you find what you need here as I process the profound loss this summer of my dear brother, Roger, who entered Heaven July 5th after a ten month battle with brain cancer.

When I thought my world would begin to heal, it caved in with grief and depression. I needed medication to help me over the worst. God, in His extreme goodness, gave me months without deadlines and only one speaking engagement, wise and loving prayer partners, and patient friends. Best of all, God gave me a husband who loved my brother also and grieved his absence with me. Together, we are healing. After several years of loss, including all our parents, another precious sister-in-law, aunts and uncles and cousins, our hearts have been broken on this long walk through sorrow. And yet, Jesus accompanies us and teaches us about His comfort and truth along the way. 

For today, I am learning that each day is an experiment in love and trust. Before I even throw my legs over the edge of the bed, I pray, "Here I am, Lord, to live for You today. Show me how to do that well. Help me not dishonor You in any way. Bring glory to Yourself any way you can in my life."

He gives me rest. Almost too much rest. I feel guilty taking naps every day, relaxing with my husband in the evening, cooking as little as I do. And yet, this is the rest He has provided for me. I take it in big gulps every day. It's OK. And I remember with deep thanks the years and memories we shared.

Dr. Roger B. Fransecky
November 22, 1940 - July 5, 2013


 


3 comments:

Elaine Miller said...

Rest my dear friend in the arms of Jesus. May He be your comfort and joy and healer. Love you, Virelle. You are a treasure in my life. Thanking God for you!

Elaine W. Miller

Vie Herlocker said...

Virelle, my heart aches for you. I'm praying that you'll feel the peace of Jesus. He'll meet you at the well.
Love you so much. Vie

Linda said...

Still praying for you. Asking the Lord to give you complete healing from the loss of your brother. It takes time. Jesus walks with us every step even when we feel alone. Holiday's bring their own set of memories.